How to bore others

How to bore others

I don’t have so much experience in being an interesting speaker, but I am a black-belt in making people bored.

In the same way that speaking well is a skill, making people bored is also a skill. Have you thought of how to get away from those pesky neighbours saying “hey”?

Or maybe those colleagues who want to chit-chat, taking away your most productive hours in the morning?

I tell you the worst location I’ve been in where this skill is tremendously useful.

When I’m on a plane.

Let say the flight is ten hours from Stockholm to Singapore, and within the first five minutes of starting the long journey, just after I finish putting my socks on, then my slippers, then tuck myself under a blanket, relaxed my shoulder with a quick massage, about to put on my eyepatch and pop the sleeping pills to settle into a good sleep. The woman sitting next to me touched my shoulder. She grins at me with a hint of restlessness, then she asks “So you’re going to Singapore?”

I said, “Aren’t we all?”

 Tell me if you’ve been in these tricky situations before.

To get you out, here are three prescriptions on how to bore others.

My first advice is to talk about yourself. A lot. After all, why hold back. Tell her your origin story. How you were born. Tell her how your mother had read you Wonder Woman and Batman stories when you were still in her tummy, and that your father played Mozart on a loop for the last 3 months of the pregnancy.

Tell her your priorities in life. How much you demand comfort and enjoyment above all else. Explain to her why your bed sheets need to be ironed / everyday otherwise you will have nightmares for weeks.

Tell her how your kids, your biggest pride and joy follow your teachings and double down / on the quest to be spoiled brats. Your daughter is the living embodiment of Kim Kardashian and your son is the next Donald Trump. The world has been so unfair to you, for the sake of justice, your family shouldn’t have to go through hard-life.

The thing is you are better than everyone else. Tell her how people complain all the time about their lives but it’s really nothing in comparison to how much abuse you’ve gone through in the airport. How the baggage checking never understands your plight for speed and that you’re allergic to having your iPad touched by dirty, coarse hands.

For the second advice, you should ensure that you have a smug face. Do everything necessary to appear disengaged. Look at NOT the woman’s face but the ceiling, or the person next to her instead. Talk without acknowledging she ever exists. She started this conversation after all. It wasn’t you who wanted this.

When she appears to want to butt in, don’t give her that pause. Keep talking. Pause is only for people who want to be understood.

You don’t want that.

If you’re telling a story, like when you met the queen, change to a posh accent. “Oh, my dear, the queen has invited the family to the royal high-tea. Indeed, it is so delightful. Now… off we go.”

My final advice is to ignore all feedback. Ignore that little voice in your head that says, “You’re being an ass”.

When the woman gives you a full-blown yawn, just pretend / that she hasn’t slept well last night. She got too excited for the chance / to meet someone like you.

After you’ve followed my advice for 10 minutes, there should be one sign of success. Get ready to get your phone out / and take a picture of what you’re about to achieve. I will give you a certificate as a public recognition. The woman should be, completely asleep.

If she’s still awake, switch to plan B.

Excuse yourself to get a cup of water, secretly pull out the sleeping pills you almost took before. Drop them into the cup. Go back to your seat.

Tell her, “Hey, I thought you must be exhausted after hearing all of that.”

Don’t forget to smile.

This post first appeared as a speech delivered in Toastmasters in October 2017.

Practicing Backwards

Practicing Backwards

They say there’s no glory in practising but without practice, there is no glory.

I’d like to introduce you to a process that I’ve used frequently to practice my speech: Practising Backwards. It’s a process that makes deliberate practice much more bearable, and much more fun to do.

Practising Piano Backwards

Last week I bought a piano, and I fell in love with the instrument all over again. I used to train to be a piano teacher but failed when I quit playing in my teenage years. Those days, practising pages and pages of music scores were really tough, everyday practice is like a chore. Eleven years of that made me hate the piano for a while.

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Caption: the piano I bought last week.

This time though, I want to play the piano differently. I want to enjoy the journey of practising rather than just rushing to the end result, where I can play the songs after weeks of agony. Typically, practising old songs I can already play is easy, but practising new songs is really hard and require a lot of willpower. My fingers are so clumsy, the notes are so hard to read, especially when it’s not in the default scale of C Major.

I wondered, how do concert pianists practice their songs?

Turns out they practice the songs backwards1. Backwards? I can hear you ask. Like this?
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Caption: next level body bending challenge2

No, that’s not what Practising Backwards means. It means rather focusing your attention on the end rather than the beginning. In terms of practising a song, first, you divide the songs into several sections, then only train on the last section until you’re 80% good. No need to be perfect, good enough is perfect. Then continue to the section before that.

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Caption: I made two pencil marks to divide the music into two sections

Indeed, above is the current song I’m practising called Setsuko & Seita from Grave of the Fireflies (the saddest animation movie I’ve ever watched). The first few are the sections I haven’t practised much, so in this audio file (about 1.5 minute long) you can hear my hesitation at every single note I pressed in the first section. But when it gets to the next section, I’ve practised this well, and you can notice the difference in pace and confidence.

The result is much more joyful practice. For every new section that’s hard to do, you can get to the end of the song through the sections you’ve practised. It makes deliberate practice sessions much more bearable, even with one repetition, you’re guaranteed to reach the sections you’ve practised previously.

Apparently, this also corresponds with the peak-end rule whereby you would remember an experience based on the most intense points (the peaks) and how it ends.

This is cool! Where else can I apply this technique?

Practising Presentation Backwards

Memorising a presentation is another task I loathe. I love speaking fluently, but that’s only possible with some practice. In presentations, many research papers have also suggested that the end conclusion is usually what people will remember, so it makes sense to practise on that first rather than practising from the beginning.

For memorising a five-minute speech, I divide it into four sections, so a section is around 1-2 minutes. Record each section, add a sentence from the previous section and the next section for the sake of integration to other sections later.

Then the practising starts. At first, all I can do is to listen, but by the second time, I can start miming my mouth to start saying stuff together. When I think I’m ready to step it up, I play the recording a lot faster3, just like when I play the familiar section on the piano.

When I practice the next section, indirectly I’m practising the last section too, because the second last section leads to the last section. If I have a little bit more energy and willpower, I don’t continue onto the section I’ve already practised, I’ll repeat the new section again.

Somehow, the technique works so well that I’ve used it to memorise three songs in a weekend. One of my coaching clients also tried this technique while she was stuck in a 6-hour flight without being able to utter much. And by the time she landed, she has memorised 15 minutes speech word-by-word without saying a word out loud.

Practising is tiring, but it can be made enjoyable. Your brain enjoys practising on things you’re already good at, and that’s why practising backwards work. It ends the practice session on the most enjoyable note.

Someone wise once said: Don’t practice until you get it right. Practice until you can’t get it wrong.

 

 


  1. How to Memorize Music Quickly and Effectively – Josh Wright Piano TV https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hXgl8cGgO-Q 
  2. Backwards piano player (as seen on Ellen!) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dizRrbtxmHM 
  3. Playing slower will help build the myelin according to this video from TED: How to practice effectively…for just about anything – Annie Bosler and Don Greene https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f2O6mQkFiiw 
What’s New: Playlist, Uploading Audio, and more…

What’s New: Playlist, Uploading Audio, and more…

We’ve had wonderful responses from everyone since January. It has been amazing to get insightful feedback from passionate presenters. We are very thankful for the help and we hope to deliver on better and better features each time.

We want to go through several features we’ve added in recent weeks.

 

1. Playlist

 

Sometimes, showing examples is all you need to learn how to present. If you’re an admin in Get Sandwich, you can group similar talks for other members of the team so that it’ll be easier for them to know what to watch. When you play a talk from the playlist, it will auto-play the next talk in the list. Get some popcorn, you won’t need to lift a finger to watch great talks from your peers.

 

2. Uploading Audio file (OGG)

 

You can upload audio files in .ogg format and it will be processed just like a video. This will help those times when you are practising your presentation for the first few times. Listening to your own voice will aid your memory and help you detect improvement points before you ask others for feedback.

Other audio formats are in the works and will be incorporated soon.

 

 

3. Downloading Your Talk Locally

 

Your files will always be yours, so we make it easy for you to download it. Other’s can’t download your talk unless they are admins of the team.

 

4. Copying  Talk Type (Admin Only)

We’re making it easy for you to administer the type of talks within your team. Instead of creating a Talk Type from scratch, you can make a copy of an existing type. Afterwards, you can access the ratings in the new type and make changes as you please.

 

Check out how they work in the video below.

 

 

We have lots more features in the work to make it easier for you to practice your presentation in whatever environment you’re in. If you have requests for features or just want to chat with us, drop us an email at team AT getsandwi.ch. We’re all ears!

 

Surprise Your Audience with These Awesome Avengers Quotes [video]

Surprise Your Audience with These Awesome Avengers Quotes [video]

To celebrate the upcoming release of Avengers Infinity Wars, we’ve compiled for you a list of top 7 awesome quotes from past Avengers movies you can use in your next presentation.

If you’re finding us for the first time, be sure to subscribe to get all the how-to-present videos.

 

Number 7

On number 7, we have a quote from Loki, I am Loki of Asgard, and I am burdened with glorious purpose.

You can use this quote to answer the most common question “Who are you?”. Especially if you have trouble in breaking the ice and feel somewhat awkward explaining what you do, saying that you are Loki of Asgard is also a very Loki thing to do, don’t you think?

 

Number 6

The next quote comes from Bruce Banner: That’s my secret, Captain: I’m always angry.

Use this quote to help describe that you’re always ready to jump on opportunities to solve a problem, or to get going, or to do anything necessary to get the job done.

 

Number 5

We have Hawkeye this time: We’re fighting an army of robots, And I got a bow and arrow.

You can use this quote for a climactic point in your storytelling, when things seem to be hopeless. Like a project that’s overdue, or the team gets overwhelmed.

 

Number 4

Ironman is on number 4: Sometimes you gotta run before you can walk. 

You can use it when explaining something ambitious. In terms of placement, this quote is versatile. Use it almost anywhere in your presentation, in the beginning, middle or end.

 

Number 3

This time we have a quote from Black Widow. Romanoff says Now, go be a hero.

If you’re ending a presentation, and want a strong call to action, this quote is perfect for you.

 

Number 2

On number 2, we have Ironman again. Loki says I have an army, for what Tony Stark replies We have a Hulk.

Best to use it if you’re presenting only one example for explaining your point. This quote highlights that you’re presenting a very good one.

 

Number 1

And for the number 1, it’s the classic line from the first Avengers movie. Captain America: Stark we need a plan of attack!
Tony Stark/Iron Man: I have a plan. Attack! 

Use this quote on a standard presentation structure when you have two sections such as Planning and Doing. You can describe what a project should be, and then talk about how the project unfolds in reality.
Introduce the Doing section with this quote will make your presentation much more engaging.

 

So that’s our list. What do you think? Leave your comments below with your thoughts and other quotes you like from Avengers. If you like this video or what we’re trying to do with this channel, hit that like button. If you’re new, hit that subscribe button.

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Get Sandwich and Klarna working together to elevate salespeople into best-sellers

Get Sandwich and Klarna working together to elevate salespeople into best-sellers

Today is an exciting day for Get Sandwich! We are letting the world know a big step we took a few months ago and it involves one of Europe’s largest banks.

In this link you can see Breakit’s report about the announcement, and the full press release you can read here:

 

Get Sandwich and Klarna working together to elevate salespeople into best-sellers

 

Get Sandwich Speaking AB, an innovative public speaking video platform, today announced it is collaborating with Klarna Bank AB (Klarna), to deliver a next-generation sales training collaboration platform. Get Sandwich is the first video library to offer support for Klarna’s result-focused methodology. The partnership complements Klarna’s rapid growth, with the goal of supporting its sales workforce every step of the way.

Get Sandwich is a video library for teams to sell with authenticity. The collaboration between Klarna and Get Sandwich  began in September 2017 when Klarna identified a need to provide more hands-on tools to their sales workforce.

Get Sandwich’s video platform has provided Klarna sales workforce the ability to learn, collaborate and update each other through their mobile, whenever and wherever. Now, Klarna Sales can get rich in-person feedback without the need of setting face-to-face meeting.

 

“Complex selling has become the norm for us,  and as we grow our business globally, we seek innovative solutions to onboard and grow our people faster. We are delighted to have Get Sandwich to help us meet this training need.”, says Filip Lam, Klarna’s Learning and Development Manager. “Get Sandwich has demonstrated what it takes to work in the same pace as we do; At lightning speed”.

 

“We have learned so much from working with Klarna in the last few months. Their dedication to provide world class training for their sales workforce is second to none, and it inspires us to do better everyday.”, says Martha Winata, CEO of Get Sandwich. “We think they’ve made the right choice and we’re excited to see future collaborations stemming  from this partnership.”

Get Sandwich went online on February 2017 with an official launch on December 2017. It is fulfilling a need for reducing anxiety of public speaking in selling, pitching and presenting. It provides constant feedback so that people can be better at their field and what they do.

It was started by a couple as co-founders, Martha Winata, and Min’an Tan. Martha is an Australian and Min’an is a Singaporean but they have been calling Stockholm home in the past 4 years.

 

Each team in Get Sandwich has a private secure zone to record their speaking practices, where in turn, they will be evaluated through a mix of structured and semi-structured metrics, resulting in vast improvements within a very short period of time.

 

For further information, please contact

Martha Winata

CEO

+46733478719

martha@getsandwi.ch

 

About Klarna

Klarna was founded in 2005 in Stockholm, Sweden with the aim of making it easier for people to shop online. Klarna is now one of Europe’s largest banks and is providing payment solutions for 60 million consumers across 89,000 merchants in 14 countries. Klarna offers direct payments, pay after delivery options and installment plans in a smooth one-click purchase experience that lets consumers pay when and how they prefer to.

 

About Get Sandwich

Get Sandwich offers a new and better way for teams to sell, pitch and present with authenticity. Founded in 2017, Get Sandwich is used to help scale team’s high-performing excellence. All speaking practices get recorded and mined for constructive peer-to-peer feedback. Customers include, TEDxStockholm, SUP46 and Toastmasters clubs in stockholm.